Dear Hollywood

Dear Hollywood,

I’m tired of you. Exasperated would be an even better word. And I know all of you that I address in this post don’t reside in Hollywood . . . or California, for that matter. Indeed, my exhaustion extends past the boundaries of the glittering Beverly Hills or Bel Air mansions. It exceeds the ritzy storefronts of a Rodeo Drive or a Melrose Avenue. Indeed, my real problem encompasses the whole of celebrity in this culture . . . stretching across a vast repertoire of talents: actor, musician, artist. I’m sick of you.

To be clear, I don’t want your money. It confuses things. I’m not a big fan of fame. I would rather go to Target in my sweatpants and stretch marks without someone taking my photo and plastering it all over a magazine. I can barely take a picture of myself with my own iPhone that doesn’t make me look like a whale. So, that would be a no to the paparazzi. When my life blows up, I prefer sharing that information with the people I trust the most. I can’t imagine watching my heartbreak analyzed by the talking heads or mocked by the trolls. So the public lives that many of you lead are not appealing on a personal level.

Furthermore, I respect your craft, and the talent that many of you bring to the screen (big and small), the stage (I think you are the best) and the recording studios all over this land. At the very least, your talents go a long way to entertain us, to momentarily blunt the harsher realities that the majority of Americans, nay, that even the citizens of the world, deal with on a daily basis. However, if we were going to rank those “harsh realities” on any kind of universal scale, I would dare say that America, as a whole, might not even rate (but that’s a whole other post). At the very most, your performances stand as witness, cataloguing our lives and times with a wide lens, inspiring us to think about the world more broadly while, at the same time, challenging us to inspect ourselves more closely. Granted, weighty stuff. I know I have walked out of a movie theater or put down my headphones on more than one occasion, challenged, exhilarated, galvanized. Even changed.

So, when what you do holds that kind of sway in the lives of your consumers, there is a certain responsibility that comes along with that. You don’t get to decide whether you have it or you don’t. Responsibility just is. Like it or not, that responsibility can feel like a burden, a restriction, and it requires large shoulders. You have influence. A lot of it. In fact, you have more than you deserve. Your blue checked social media accounts rule the minds and hearts of your followers. Your interviews on red carpets and inadvertent encounters with the media dominate the headlines. Even your acceptance speeches at awards shows can become more enduring than the art you won for.

So, forgive me if I find it funny when I see an actress who has compromised every fiber of morality and decency to cast her celluloid “art” tweet her disgust at the reprehensible character flaws of another. Even better, when actors who have filled their coffers with film projects that glorify all forms of graphic and gratuitous violence speak out with fiery passion about the use of guns in culture. Pardon me while I scoff at that rap artist, whose song lyrics denigrate all aspects of the female figure line by line, as he takes a valuable moment away from spitting his rhymes to comment on the harms of a misogynistic, rape culture. Oh, how it all smacks of duplicity. And you call us religious folk hypocrites!

See, if you are going to be an artist, then be an artist. Be a good one. But the second you step from behind that art into the spotlight as a human being to take up a cause you care about, you have to bring your actual character with you. Not the one you played in your most recent film . . . or the persona you created for your latest album. Your actual integrity. And, that, my friend, is when you find your mortality once again.  You become one of us.  You become accountable to things that your celebrity community is largely marked by: failed relationships (marriage . . . cough, cough), destructive, even deadly addictions, routine run-ins with the law (just google celebrity mug shots), entitlement and excess. And, in a world, where the insane run the asylum, we line up like sheep to listen to your golden words. And time and time again, your failing private lives speak so much louder. See, we have all been to Oz. We have seen behind the curtain. And, even though we feign adoration, in our hearts, we know it is all just smoke and mirrors.

Carrie Fisher once said, “Celebrity is just obscurity biding its time.” So, I get it. You have the tiger by the tail, and being insignificant would be the death of you. What a precarious perch to maintain. Many of you, in fact, have sold your souls to buy relevance and stave off finality. But death is a curious thing. And if there is anything 2016 has shown us, it is very simply this:  death doesn’t discriminate.

Words

I have always been fascinated by a good writer’s process.  Do they wrangle words from thin air, piecing them together in an ideal symmetry.  Or do they take a formless lump of confusion and simply clarify?  Either way, a writer possesses the most formidable weapon on earth.  Dynamic.  Potent.  Irrevocable.  And not everyone should hold a pen.

As a child, I remember sitting in the backyard of Helen Keller’s Alabama home, Ivy Green.  A Sunday school field trip took me to an afternoon performance of The Miracle Worker by William Gibson.  I was transfixed.  Anne Sullivan turned on the light in Helen’s darkness with language.  And in an instant, the “no world” of Helen’s childhood vanished.    One line from that play has stayed with me all these years:  “Words, why, you can see five thousand years back in the light of words, everything we feel, think, know–and share, in words, so not a soul is in darkness, or done with, even in the grave.”

Language is the original institutional memory.  Words simmer in our consciousness long after we have shared them.  They wreck us with their virility.  They can lift us to unattainable heights, yet they can also drive us deep within ourselves to discover why we care so much.  They linger.  And oftentimes we welcome their company, but sometimes they haunt us.

So as I scroll along culture’s newsfeed, I find something curious.  We have never lived in a time that coupled such overt sensitivity with such a lack of regard for the impact of words.  We pride ourselves with our right to freedom of speech on the one hand and on the other, feign gross insult at every turn.  We are offended easily and often.  Yet we can’t shut up.  How manic is that?

This next week is a big one for our nation.  The conclusion of one of the most contentious, exhausting seasons that I can remember.  My prayer is more than just politically motivated.  We must remember that how we characterize the outcome of this election will hold sway, not just for the day or the week, but forever.  Some of you may have already seen relationships damaged or ended by disagreement over a person or a policy.  Maybe your garden needed pruning, and you are ultimately better off with an emotional boundary in place.  However, I know that we have all been handed an arsenal and every time we touch the keyboard, we pull the pin on a potential grenade.  When we sit around the dinner table or talk on our phones, our children are listening.  Most significantly, when those that follow us through the ages of time find themselves facing a challenge and look back for solace or wisdom, they will read how we handled ours.  And what then will our words reveal about the content of our character?

The Winner

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My brother turns 50 this next week. That’s hard for me to write, much less believe. In my mind’s eye, we are still kids running loose in the front yard on Lakeshire, embroiled in a bitter neighborhood match up. Tackle football at its finest. I’m hanging by the sidelines just hoping to get the call. I’ve run that post route a thousand times, judging the velocity and grasping at that tight spiral as it hit my chest with a thud. I know I can catch it. With my blue Ole Miss jersey and my buster brown haircut, I’m watching my quarterback brother for the nod. There’s a five year difference between us, and the team is a hodgepodge of school-aged friends. Mostly older. Mostly boys. But I want in, and our endless practice sessions have filled me with a wild confidence. Finally, I hear him call, “Jen, it’s your turn.” I trot into the huddle, surrounded by skeptics. I watch him draw the play up on the palm of his hand. This will never work, they all think. She’s a girl. She’s too little. We’re going to lose. “Down. Set. Hut. Hut.” I’m off. Streaking down the sideline, I give a quick head fake and turn for the end zone. The ball is already in the air, anticipating my arrival. I reach out into open space and muscle memory kicks in. The ball lands perfectly and safely in my arms. I stand, hands in the air, smugly surveying the fallen defenders. We are the winners. Just like I knew we would be.

That wouldn’t be the last time I stood on the sidelines watching him play quarterback. No, I spent the majority of my elementary and middle school years at Robins Field on a Friday night. And when his career led him to college, most every Saturday at the Liberty Bowl or some other grand stage in the South. Great stadiums where modern gladiators waged war. I learned quickly that no matter how the team was doing, my brother was going to be held responsible. If they were losing, he turned the ball over too much. If they were winning, he was throwing strikes. The quarterback has to have big shoulders, because he carries both high praise and blistering criticism. I’m not saying it is fair. I’m just saying it is. Nevertheless, Andy was an astute field general, maintaining a calm and a presence in highly charged environments. He ran one of the most effective two minute offenses I can remember, leading his team to more last minute victories than I can count. His performances oftentimes inspired heart failure from his family, but he never folded under pressure. Underperformed occasionally? Yes. Gave up? Never.

The same qualities that saved him on the football field have served him equally well in life. His broad shoulders are older but nonetheless strong. In fact, they have carried me on more than one occasion. Because of our birth order, I was always afforded flights of fancy, emotional swings, and high drama. Andy, not so much. I may have been the entertainment. Andy has always been the substance. He is without question the one man in my life who has displayed an unwavering devotion to his faith in any and all circumstances. And when I say all circumstances, I mean that. Life has not always been kind to him, but he has always found a way to trust even in the middle of the storm. In my life, no other man has led by example over such a long period of time in that way. Ever.

Andy, I hope you find a football field this Friday. I hope you line up, drop back and throw a bomb.  I know you’ve still got it.  You’re a winner.  Just like I knew you always would be.

 

Scars

Dear God, make me an oak.  I’ve written that before.  And this last few days, I’ve meant it.

Two nights ago, we had an accident in our home with our new puppy, Boo Radley.  After some additional complications, Boo didn’t make it.  The images I have from that moment will stay with me for a long time, suspended in my memory . . . especially those of my son, who had finally found his “puppy brother.”

My husband and I found out about Boo’s death before Luca, and so we carried that knowledge around with us yesterday at work, dragging it like a cumbersome millstone.  I went through the motions, all the while knowing that I was going to sit down later and rob more of his withering innocence.  Indeed, the afternoon Luca would look very different from the one I had kissed on the head that morning.  I played with the wording, the syntax, the semantics all day, urging my sense of articulation to find a way to soften this blow.  However, when I saw his face running to the car, eagerly bursting with excitement over any news of Boo’s improvement, it simply spilled out of me, right there in the parking lot.

I watched his face twist in agony, and I heard the simultaneous wail, something akin to an injured animal.  I opened the door just in time for him to melt into my arms.  I rocked him, just like I used to do, and in the powerful rush of emotion, I traveled in my mind to the seashore, feeling the intensity of each wave strike my legs as I struggled to stand.

In a moment it happened.  Clarity.  As I breathed deeply and slowed my heart rate, I said to myself, “Be the center.  Be his center.”  I knew instantly that I was his buoy in a raging sea.  Tethered by those moorings, Luca needs me to be okay even though he is not.  The security I provide him as a parent isn’t an insulation from the pain.  It’s the panacea.  All day I had been trying to protect him, shelter him, shield him.  As strange as this sounds, that’s not really my primary job.  My principal occupation is to assure him that even when (not if) the tornadic winds shake our home, the foundation is sound.  We can always rebuild.  Rooted in strength, he has to be certain that the infrastructure is stable, that pain, although searing isn’t lethal, and that in the days ahead, he will feel hope spring again in his heart.

Parenting.  It will undo you.  It will shake you to your core and test your mettle.  And there are no merit badges, although there should be.  There are just scars.  Wonderfully redemptive scars that instantly bring to mind where you have been and what you have already conquered.  Each jagged line a reminder that you are stronger than you ever knew.

 

 

I Still Believe

I still believe in the laughter of children.  Bouncing through the neighborhood in the dull summer afternoon heat, a whisper of hope swells in the sun.  Children live in a perpetual sense of expectancy.  They remember what we have long forgotten.  They move and breathe and play with promise cupped carefully in the palms of their hands.  A single fire fly illuminating its five finger house at dusk.

I still believe in the kindness of strangers.  The commonality of shared experience.  Grace showing out in the face of the worst of the human condition.  I still believe in those who stand in line for hours to donate blood.  Those who comfort the broken.  Rescue the injured.  Share their sandwiches.  Bandage wounds.  I still believe in the surgeon’s skill and the policeman’s courage.  Brilliant luminescence against a backdrop of terror.

I still believe in the future.  That there is one.  I still believe that our salvation is found on bended knee, emptied of vainglory and affectation.  I still believe that life is best lived in search of something beyond ourselves,  inscrutable and incomprehensible.  I still believe in truth.  Absolute and infinite.  No work of man can sway its immutable judgment.  For truth was never the work of man in the first place.

I still believe that change starts in the mirror.  There will always be those who pontificate in perfect pitch, but our values best not be shaped in the wake of their words.  I believe we must, more than ever, do more than listen to talking heads and political puppet masters.  We must do more than share our opinions on social media, even this one.  We must do more than press like or love.  We must do.  Often and always.  I believe in baking pies, sharing dinners, glasses clinking together in goodwill.  I believe in a real hand reaching out to another real hand in a gesture of honest friendship.  I believe in eye contact and a trusted name.  I still believe, that our voices, however puny, can repudiate evil and chase the darkness to the corners of our existence.

I still believe.  Because I have to.  Someone is counting on me . . . on us to get this done.  They look into our faces of disbelief and horror as we watch the work of madness, and they search for sanctuary.  They hear the panic in our voices as we talk about the lack of viable candidates, threats of imminent terror and spiraling debt, and they wonder what this all means.  They are our children, happily running through sprinklers and drinking from the rivers of perpetual innocence.  They don’t have much longer until they discover we have failed them.  They have not deserved our indiscretions, but they are inheriting them.  Now is the time.  Today.  Find your real voice.  Rest in a real hope.  Reach out to a real person.  Pour yourself out.  And remember to still believe.

Life is About Addition. Not Subtraction.

Yes, I used mathematical terms in the title of this piece.  No, that does not mean I have wavered in my view that math is the devil’s language.  However, I have learned something interesting this past year of my life.  Or should I say remembered.  The first time I learned it I was in elementary school.

I always loved addition.  Carrying those ones, discovering the sum, finding satisfaction in the increase.  It felt like I was going somewhere.  That was thrilling.  I hated subtraction.  The method was just more complicated.  Scanning from right to left, invariably you had to borrow and take away.  Just like robbing Peter to pay Paul, you knew at some point, down the line, you were going to have pay the piper.  As the numbers grew bigger, it just became harder for me to keep up.  In fact, the only thing I liked about subtraction was checking my work with . . . yep, you guessed it . . . addition.

It is easy, as we grow older, to see life as a relentless game of subtraction . . . one that leaves us with a less than desirable difference.  As our chronological age increases, the things we lose become more and more evident.  Dexterity, flexibility and physical prowess retreat.  The 40’s squint kicks in as you realize the words on that page three inches from your face aren’t as clear as they were yesterday.  Hairlines recede, skin dries and cracks, hormones diminish leaving you a sweaty, angry mess.  Our families spread out. Children leave for college or for life.  Good friends accept promotions across the country.  Neighbors sell their homes.  We live paycheck to paycheck, playing beat the bank with mortgage payments and school tuition checks.  We watch some relationships disintegrate; alienation doesn’t knock on the door.  It simply moves in.  We sit with our loved ones on their death beds.  We hold their hands.  We sing them away.  We ache.  Time gets small.  And oh, how we feel the irony when we realize that the only thing in our lives that is increasing is our waistlines.

I made a giant move in my life this year.  I left a place of employment I loved and cherished for the better part of my adult life for another.  And it was scary.  And it hurt.  Really badly.  The only thing I can tell you is that the decision I made that seemed to be a divine appointment initially only felt like a profound loss.  I didn’t get it.  God was moving in my life, and yet it felt like I was dying.  And then one day I wasn’t.  I looked up and saw the power of addition.  Unfamiliar faces have become more than just familiar.  They have become friends.  An early carpool commute brings with it cherished companionship and spontaneous hilarity.  My students of old have become folk heroes to my new crew.  They routinely ask me for stories.  And as tales starring Meatball, Horton Haven, flying snakes, strange chapel speakers and A102 spill out, I find myself calculating a most exquisitely beautiful sum.  All of those soul ties that I thought I was breaking?  I was just bringing them with me.  And the people who have loved me through it all?  Well, they still do.  God was just asking me to die to an idol I had created in my own image so that He could give me more than I knew how to ask for.  That’s how dumb I am.  That’s how good He is.

I don’t know what you are busy calculating in your life.  But I encourage you to use the plus sign.  I think you will find the total an overwhelmingly gracious and undeserved gift.

 

The Apprentice

I am the greatest sinner among you.  No, I’m serious.  Oh, so rich in depravity am I.  Weak and troubled, I fall upon God’s mercies every morning.  Understanding this about myself, I have closely inspected my righteous indignation swirling around this upcoming Presidential election.  Why now do I find myself armed with words ready to dissect each candidate?  Why do I cringe with each soundbite and distract myself with nostalgic trips down memory lane?   This isn’t my first time at the rodeo.  I have voted in some pretty important elections, but this time, I have truly railed against so many facets of this campaign and against candidates on both sides of the aisle.  This morning, I stood in front of my mirror thinking about the upcoming primary vote, and there it was.  My answer.

For decades, our culture has twisted our most essential values, hyper-dramatized them and packaged them in a reality show.  We have reduced the value of life and death to survival on a distant island.  We have minimized the sacred commitment of marriage to a rose ceremony.  We have diminished the sanctity of the family by living vicariously through a whole host of people who have sold their souls and worse still, their children’s souls for the glittering pursuit of gold.  We have diminished the value of true friendship by reveling in all manner of programs that glorify backstabbers, shysters and scammers.  Our entertainment industry has successfully played upon our “fascination with the abomination” for more than a generation, and we have happily consumed it like candy.  We have winked and laughed with each other over the water cooler.  We have raised our eyebrows, and we have turned the channels.  At the very least, we have ignored it, and at the very most, we have been complicit.

So perhaps, it is just punishment that we wake up one day to find our race for the highest office in the land has become an episode of The Apprentice.  Debates playing out more like a reunion show of the Real Housewives franchise than a thoughtful, intelligent, civilized discussion of the beautiful experiment that is America.  The hopes for our children’s futures have been exchanged temporarily for personal attacks, profanity laced interchanges, and childish arguments over appearance and hair styles. And guess what, debate ratings for this cycle have soared.  Try as we might, we just cannot look away.

When election time comes, I am going to exercise my right by casting a vote into the madness.  I’m going to pull the lever with the same hopes of all those who have come before me:  a better tomorrow.  And that humbles me.  It convicts me.  And frankly, it has forced me to take a look at my own reflection and wonder what part I have played in this chaos.  It makes me aware that every decision we have made culturally has had dramatic, life changing consequences for our society’s stability.  Truth be told, we cannot demand a principled discourse from a culture that has long since abandoned a cultivation of principles.

So, maybe we will wake up.  Or maybe we will not.  Either way, I will be once again falling on God’s good graces and asking that He heal our divided land.

It’s Good. Except When It’s Not.

This is going to be short and sweet.

It finally happened. I’ve been waiting, anticipating, planning, articulating my beautiful three point sermon with a tiny, but life changing poem in my head. And then, boom.

“Momma, I think it’s weird that you and Daddy didn’t have any real kids.” Luca said, nonchalantly last night as I tucked him into bed.

“But, Luca,” I said. “You are our real kid.”

“Oh, I know, Momma. You really do feel like my momma and Daddy really does feel like my daddy, but I have other parents, you know.”

You see, up until that very moment, Paul, Luca and I have largely lived our adoption story inside the pages of a sweet, preferably Christian, storybook. An angel with feathery wings, hovers above a beautiful, chubby-cheeked boy, whispering words of affirmation in his ear, singing to his soul the truth of providential appointments and God’s divine order. Page turn. Adoptive mother serenely strokes adopted child on the cheek, singing the prayers of her heart and the appreciation she feels for his birth mom. Page turn. New family runs together, hand in hand, in a field of daffodils, while creation watches in wonder. The End. I know that book. I have that book. It’s on the shelf in Luca’s room in seven varieties. And that book is good. Except when it’s not.

I opened my mouth to say all the things I am supposed to say in that moment. God brought us to you. The judge declared to all the land that you are our boy. We loved you before we knew you. All the things. Yet, the whole time I was thinking to myself. This wouldn’t have been enough for me. At 8, these words would not have been enough. If I were him, I would want to know why I wasn’t with her. Why she cast me aside. None of this. No, nothing would make any sense until I had answered that question.

And, let me get this part straight. I am not offended by his line of questioning. I KNOW I’m his mother. I have bandaged wounds. I have cleaned ungodly messes. I have wiped . . . it all. I have paced the floor over a crazy high fever, more than once. I have prayed, cried, and celebrated. I have held him to me in the moments of his deepest, wildest desperation. I have disciplined. I have stood as sentinel over a table filled with homework. And the pancakes. Good grief, the number of pancakes I have made. Nobody has worked harder to earn the right to be called his mother, but me. Nobody.

What I am is hurt. I am hurt that this is his cross to bear. I am hurt that this question will linger. That this will be his fight, and there is nothing I can do to change it. And as I was considering the depth of my hurt over his hurt, I got my moment of clarity. I am always trying to make Luca’s pain about me. But this one. This isn’t about me. It’s not about infertility or inadequacy or inability. This is about him. This is about his story. This is about his destiny. He doesn’t need my pity. He needs my strength.  That way, he will know that he will be okay when the storm of pain subsides.

So I got in my car this morning on my way to work, and I asked God to make me an oak. To cut out my heart. To make me as strong as the tallest tree in the forest so that he never feels like he can’t tell me that he sometimes misses her. And then I cried a little.

Real life is not a storybook. It’s tougher, but it has such a better plot.

 

Dancing in the Shadows

I love watching the world fall asleep. Dark, low-hanging clouds cover the expanse like a soft blanket. Nature stands erect, stained in piercing crimsons and radiant golds. The intense beauty is a wonder to behold. And we do. As temperatures fall, humanity is drawn into the splendor. We can’t help ourselves. It is in us to marvel at that we do not understand. And with synchronicity and precision, fall arrives, and we are compelled to dance in its shadows.

This world is a broken place. Shots ring out on the horizon, and carnage remains. Hurricanes threaten our shores. The deluge swallows people and objects whole. War, hatred, vice, animosity hold court as we grapple with how to depose them. We watch with downcast eyes and shared understanding as the funeral processions march by. Looking full in the face of grief threatens to undo us. So we usually don’t. Not directly.

Destruction is always at odds with peace. Upsetting the delicate balance of life is its express occupation. It is inevitable. It is universal. Since the beginning of time, mankind has been trying to answer one resounding question posed by the great deceiver, “Did God really say?” And pouring into that void, doubt fills our hearts and souls as we attempt to reconcile what we say we believe with the expression of that belief amidst our unspeakable circumstances. At the great intersection of faith and action, we are left to ponder how to proceed.

Like fall, we respect the death that winter brings. In nature, we can so easily identify its unstoppable momentum, and we adjust to its verocity with the warmth that home and hearth brings. We give thanks for our blessings and live in anticipation of spring. However, in culture, we abandon that understanding. We spin our wheels attempting to patch the gaping hole that death creates with a post it note. In our arrogance, we believe we can set things aright. An unmitigated futility.

It is not our job to solve death. It is not a force we have the power to eradicate. We can’t will it, push pills at it, disarm it, or undo it. We are simply inadequate. Perhaps we should approach the destruction of our world as we do nature. Acknowledge it. Respect it.  Adjust to it. Live to spite it. Anticipate an eternity without it. And while the world scrambles to solve another death filled conundrum by debating political agendas, the power of death will remain in time and space despite our best efforts.  Evil doesn’t fear legislation.  Perhaps if we spent as much time at the feet of the only one who has defeated death, we would spend more time living in spite of it. Even dancing in its shadows.

Pinterest: The Downfall of Modern Motherhood

Pinterest, I hate you.  Sincerely.  If there were ever a threat to my status as a respectable mother, this “social curation” is certainly it.  You see, I work.  Both inside and outside the home.  That doesn’t make me special or somehow better.  It just makes me really busy.  However, no matter how busy I might be, that intrinsic drive in the soul of every woman to be mom of the year is always there; rearing its ugly head at all times of the school calendar: birthday parties, Thanksgiving luncheons, Easter celebrations, teacher appreciation week, Christmas pageants, field trips . . . you get it.  We all want to pack the best lunch, provide the hippest snack.  I don’t care who you are.  At one time or another on our parenting journey, we all have wanted to be “that” mom.

Before Pinterest, “that” mom was mortal.  Her blood ran red.  However, she never had night sweats.  She never applied the searing pressure of “the claw” on her child’s cheeks right before walking into a social situation.   Her hormones have been and will always be perfectly balanced.  Despite her lack of menopausal symptoms and aberrant fits of rage, she was more like one of us.  Normal.  She sometimes took her children to school without make-up . . . in sweats.  She packed nutritious lunches in brown paper bags and added her special spice by including a sweet note, reminding young Timmy or sweet Sarah that they were loved to the moon and back.  She volunteered to be room mom, coordinated events, provided transportation . . . all the kinds of things we all wish we had the organizational skills to pull off.  At class parties, she looked put together, unstressed, and petted her generally well-behaved, compliant child on the head as he or she moved judiciously throughout the room spreading good cheer to all the other students.

Pinterest mom is another animal altogether.  She has made a new category of parental perfection that is virtually impossible to achieve.  I bring seasonal Double Stuf Oreos to class parties.  I usually pick them up the morning of said event and deliver them through my child still in the bag from Kroger.  Pinterest mom created a board for the class Christmas party in April.  She has been posting “cutsie” ideas for the food buffet and gift exchange from all over the world, taking note of color schemes, organizing paint swatches for the table cloth and crafting a life sized Christmas tree with only deco-mesh ribbon, zip ties, and a tomato cage.

Pinterest mom sends a gluten free snack in bio-degradable packaging.  I’m not even sure if the Cheeto’s Cheese Puffs I send with my child are bio-degradable.  For lunch, Pinterest mom has sent sandwiches in the shape of the child’s monogram, fruit and veggies with hummus, and water filtered with indigenous moss into a stainless steel, BPA free water bottle with a retractable top.  She also included a Valentine’s heart napkin and a hand crocheted cardigan, a design she found on Crochetholic’s Pinterest board,  just because she had extras and the classroom might get cold.  I sometimes send my child to school with a Lunchable (I just heard the Internet gasp), but more often than not, he eats a “hot lunch” (code for I didn’t have time to pack him a Lunchable).

Pinterest mom looks good in yoga pants, works out in a fake gym with light bulbs that tan you without dangerous UV radiation.  She made them by hand with tiny crystals she harvested in the diamond mines of Sierra Leone.  Her house looks like a photograph from an interior design magazine and her custom built-ins under the staircase double both as a children’s playroom and as a command center for her Pinterest empire.  Most importantly, she has a label maker, and she knows how to use it.  My house looks like an episode of Hoarders meets F-5 tornado.

So, what are we less than average moms to do in a world where Pinterest makes ideas more accessible than hours in a day to bring them to fruition?  Well, as for me, I’m off to Kroger.  Halloween Double Stuf Oreos are half price this week.